How can I be okay with the fact that there's no romance in my relationship?

My husband is the most unromantic man ever. When I was younger, I thought it was because he was poor and didn't have the money to wine and dine me. Now that I'm older and we both have more money, I've come to realize that romance is something he considers unimportant. After 8 years together, he's never brought me flowers, made me a meal, planned a romantic surprise date for us, left me a love note, etc. For the last few years, the only birthday/christmas presents I've received are the ones I've bought and wrapped myself. I didn't even get to have a formal wedding proposal because my alzheimer's ridden grandmother literally told me my husband was going to propose and gave me the family ring to give to my husband. Nice, i know. As time goes on and more and more of my friends get married and have husbands, I can't help but feel like I'm missing out. I would love to know that my husband spent hours or days planning something to make me happy. Even if I just had that one night where he proposed to me I would feel better. I've mentioned how I would love a romantic gesture of some type and my husband just thinks I'm beeing ridiculous, he sees the whole thing as unnecessary. What can I do? I can't seem to get past this. Everytime I hear some sappy engagement story or how romantic one of my friends birthday's was I want to run and go cry. I'm just starting to feel very unimportant and this concerns me.